No longer on Facebook
Posted on Thu February 04, 2010 in self
Tags: antisocial alone
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I did the unthinkable... after being on facebook for a couple years and being
able to reach old friends and new... I made the decision to deactivate it today.
Driving home, thinking about a lot of things that is going on in my life right
now, and thinking about how I wish so many things were different and better... I
got into one of my antisocial/hermit slumps. This happens now and then, when my
body and mind simply get tired of acting like everything is so fine all the
time. It's draining in every way. So I finally cut myself off the facebook
grid. It's oddly satisfying, to feel like I'm disconnected from society to some
degree. I haven't decided if it's a feeling of liberation that brings relief,
or if I am just feeling satisfied that I've somewhat finally taken the leap to
establish my own space where nobody can see me, nobody can find me, and I don't
have to see stupid postings about which celebrity people think they resemble, or
what is the latest photo or activity going on with their kid.
Finally alone..... sort of.
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33 / Female
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About Me: With a BA in Psych, MA in Special Ed, and four years of a PhD program in Disabilities and autism on my CV, I've learned that 'experts' are not always professionals with high degrees, but they can be random strangers who share your experience. By helping each other, we can slowly fix the broken system.
Location: Berkeley, CA
Interests: Autism, Alzheimer's, mental retardation, special education, minorities in education
Funniest medical moment: I had an abnormal pap one time so I got a 2nd pap done. Then I went to the obgyn to hear the results of the 2nd pap, which turned out normal. "Yay! I'm NORMAL!" I yelled with a big grin on my face. My obgyn --- who was a funny man who wore bow ties --- said, "Um well, Talesa, I wouldn't say YOU're normal... but your test result was!"
Medical Conditions: Potentially Alzheimer's and osteoporosis down the road, and whatever else comes my way.
Health Interests: Dermatology, Hygiene, Women's Health
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Anna says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:32 PM
Gosh, I really do know what you mean. I do appreciate the connection to my friends and knowing what the good friends are up to, but there's also so much crap that comes with it. Seeing annoying posts and the feeling of being stalked etc. I've also seen different sides of people through what they say on FB and it makes me wonder. Sometimes I feel like its become too superficial and is no longer just a way for friends to connect.
I do hope that you remain on MMW, you bring so much value here!
Talesa says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:45 PM
Yes of course I'll stay on MMW.... I'm here to support the mission of MMW, and you, and the people here. The postings I see on here are much more meaningful than the ones on facebook, hands down.
pinktattoo says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:46 PM
This is the exact reason why I don't do facebook either. I just felt like I was inviting people to be nosey about my life and firiends even got offended when I didn't comment on their posts, it was wasting too much of my time.
Talesa says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:48 PM
Yeah, people DO get all weird when they know you saw their post but didn't comment. But you know, if you post a pic of your kid or about your kid, and I have nothing nice to say about it... just be glad I said nothing at all! hahaha
pinktattoo says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:50 PM
LOL seriously! the worst part is even my parents and aunts are on it and they were judging me according to my posts. The worst is when you add someone as a friend to be courteous and you start getting all their updates and you care less!
Anna says:
on February 04, 2010 at 08:51 PM
how about the random people that add you as a friend and you ignore them because you are really NOT their friend and they get all weird on you when they run into you.
LazySusan says:
on February 04, 2010 at 09:08 PM
Yeah, and sometime you accept their friend request, just to be polite... but it feels so insincere. So then you have to 'hide' them, so you never have to see their posts. It's such a silly social game somehow.
Yeah, and it's hard to tell those random people that you just haven't gotten around to accepting their friend requests, especially when they can tell when you were on fb, should you comment or post anything anywhere else. Of course, you can increase your privacy settings so this can all be avoided... but then in the end, you think.... why the hell am I going through all this trouble for a random person?!! haha
Anna says:
on February 04, 2010 at 09:28 PM
lazy susan, this is SO true! ha, I was sitting here with a friend today, showing her how to set her privacy settings and thinking the same thing you just posted!
Ester says:
on February 04, 2010 at 11:14 PM
LOL, so true so true! I have a love hate relationship with my FB account. I love it yet I hate it.
Kyle says:
on February 14, 2010 at 08:03 PM
I've restricted my daughter from using this site because of some stalkerish behavior she was getting from some of the weird young men on the site.
lynn says:
on February 22, 2010 at 11:20 PM
I just had to read this again because I can relate so much to what you're saying. "...thinking about a lot of things that is going on in my life right now, and thinking about how I wish so many things were different and better." Sometimes it feels like everything in my life is just going to topple over. -sigh-